For many of us, 2019 has been an incredibly busy year, full of challenges and successes on the work, family, relationship and personal front. If you’re someone who follows the news closely, you may have noticed that there is a lot of instability in global politics, leaving many people feeling uncertain of what we’ll need to face in the coming decade. A way to combat these feelings, can be to go “back to the start” and reconnect with yourself, your goals, and the things that make you happy, in order to learn more about the things that will fulfill your life regardless of external events. The best way to help humanity come back to a place of wholeness is to start with yourself. Starting a connection journey can be a great way to wrap up the year, allowing you to refocus for January, and ultimately, recharge your batteries in the process.
We disconnect with ourselves relatively unknowingly, going into “robot” or “zombie” mode, completing the same tasks, work and routines day-in and day-out. By the time we realise we’ve been in this mode, we may well have been in this rut over a long period of time, as it doesn’t tend to happen overnight. Contributing factors to disconnecting from ourselves and the things that make us happy include the hustle and bustle of modern day life, where we are being bombarded with information and are always having our attention pulled in multiple directions. If we have family responsibilities, like parenting, or caring for a parent, this can also add to the disconnect. We essentially disconnect when we start to put ourselves last, considering the needs of others before our own, and ultimately, falling into somewhat of a trap, that can be difficult to navigate out of without some help.
Reconnecting with yourself when this happens can be tricky, but it isn’t impossible. It is important to initiate the process as soon as you realise you’ve disconnected, but you don’t have to overwhelm yourself by making tremendous changes overnight. Ask yourself about one thing you can do this week to practice a bit of self care. This can be going for a walk outside, taking a long bath, or calling a friend you’ve been wanting to chat to for a while but haven’t found the time. One small act of kindness towards yourself can help to generate additional momentum, giving you room to contemplate the things that make you happy in the first place. If you’re able to, taking a day to yourself is also a great way to reconnect with yourself.
In doing so, you can push pause, reflect over the day, and decide how you want to gradually move yourself towards a space where you’re connecting a little bit more each day. It’s important to realise that self-care is not the same thing as being selfish. A lot of people think that if they take time for themselves, it will mean that they are taking something away from those around them. This couldn’t be further from the truth. If you are trying to help others from a place of being drained yourself- you are not able to show up the way you want to, the energy behind what you are doing is not backed by the fullness of your whole being. When you take time to fill yourself up, to tend to your own light, then you are able to show up fully and shine that light for others.
Once you’ve started the process, you may well find that you are beginning to approach the new year with fresh eyes. Reconnecting with yourself and engaging in self care activities can turn the tide on negative thoughts around the future. Connecting with yourself can also give you a clearer idea around new goals for your personal or professional development. A connected person is able to articulate some of the things they would like to learn, is able to set new goals, and has the ability to communicate these goals effectively to those around them, minimising any thoughts that the person may be pulling away or doing things in an attempt to break with what has become the status quo, and to consciously create a new future.
If you’re worried that taking a first step towards connection can be a little daunting, I’d love to help you get started. I’ve been working with clients from all walks of life for years, offering in-person or online coaching sessions at a pace that is comfortable based on the individual needs of my clients. Coaching can serve as a catalyst to help you to reconnect with your true needs and desires. By learning more about your own motivations and the things that make you happy, facilitated by someone who is supportive of your journey, you will be well on your way to staying connected to yourself in the long-run. I’d love to hear from you, and to be a small part of your wellness journey.
Written By: Karen-Sophia